Is it just me, or does it seem like every website you go to these days is about empowering someone? Empowering women, empowering men, empowering children. I personally love this but some may wonder, what the heck is empowerment, really?!
I’m going to give you my definition (it’s kind of like a recipe that has a little bit of this and a little bit of that).
Essentially, empowerment is like a Teflon shield that gives you total control over your own life. You are in the drivers’ seat. If it were a recipe, it would be a scoop of self-love, a handful of self-respect, accountability, positivity, compassion, authenticity and feeling valued.
Empowerment has two siblings: Will Power and Why Power.
If you rely on Will Power alone, you’re SOL because Will Power runs out! On the other hand, Why Power is strong stuff. If you know your why, you’ll figure out your how. If you’re working toward a college degree so you can land the job of your dreams, that Why Power will carry you through those late nights studying, the stress of exams, and all those parties. Oops! I mean the late nights in the library.
So, how can you tell when you’re empowered? Here are 4 telltale signs that you’re on the right track…
🌟You have absolutely clarity of what you want.
🌟You believe in yourself and know you’ll be able to “get there.”
🌟You can see the steps you need to take in order to accomplish your goal.
🌟You are 100% selfish with your power: you protect yourself, your vision and your life.
So, that’s how you identify empowerment. But how do you get there?
You’ll Get There With Practice
You can’t just go to a seminar. You can’t just buy it off the shelf. You can’t just read a self-help book. These things may inspire you or motivate you, but they’re not going to empower you. Empowerment is a daily practice.
Try these 6 steps toward empowerment:
✅Identify something in your life with which you’re dissatisfied. Make it something small to start (we’re not going to create world peace over night!).
✅Articulate the change you want to see.
✅Establish steps for change. You must actually believe in your ability to change so have plans to work on that mindset too.
✅Take action. Now that you’ve created the steps, this will be clear.
✅Succeed, because you’ve already laid out a foolproof plan.
✅Celebrate the positive impact or change.
I like to keep things super simple as examples, so enjoy this one😁: let’s say your husband leaves the toilet seat up every night. When you get up at 3 am to use the restroom (because you drank the proper amount of water that day), you find yourself falling booty first into the toilet bowl. Yikes!
Identify the thing with which you are dissatisfied (the toilet seat being up). Articulate the change you want to see (the toilet seat being down). Establish steps for change and take action (tell your husband how it makes you feel when cold toilet water hits your booty at 3 am). Succeed and celebrate the positive impact (show your husband how much you love him with __________ [insert your own way here]).
A Word of Caution
When you become empowered, you will no longer be willing to put up with much nonsense in any area of your life. You tolerance level for people constantly displaying their victim or martyr cards will decrease, which may cause your circle of friends to decrease for a bit….but then it picks back up with more like-minded people.
Empowered people want to empower others. But it must always start with you!
A great book I read during my Quantum Coaching Program is The Power of TED (The Empowerment Dynamic). It’s a great place to start that will show you how you can move from feeling like a Victim to being a Creator of your own life.