What to Avoid:
Another way love can put you off your game is a constant flood of false praise. There’s your mother telling you, “We love you just the way you are,” or your husband reassuring you that the dress looks as great as it did when you bought it even though you can’t zip it anymore. Though all the soothing sentences like, “Oh my goodness, I think those jeans must have shrunk in the wash,” are spoken with good intentions, the false praise can keep you from really tackling your weight loss. Without meaning to, your loved ones are creating a soft landing for failure. What you need is a cheerleader, not an excuse maker.
Those are the friends and family that can’t resist a party. You are included in every food-centric outing and every calorie-laden gathering because they just LOVE you. And those same folks will never let your glass run dry so in addition to loading you up with sinful snacks, you’ll wind up with a bottomless wine glass to boot. 5oz what? There is no doubt about it, the party crew is hard on a weight loss plan.
These are the folks that back your efforts, believe in your resolve, and want you to win. They are the first people to stop asking you if you want to go out for cake and coffee and start suggesting a walk in the park. They notice the changes you are adopting and they encourage you to keep going. These are the people that make you feel like you can really do it this time. Surround yourself with these wonderful people. Their positive energy and faith in you is a game changer.
You do not have to do this alone! Look for other people—friends, family, colleagues, and support groups—who are embarking on the same journey. Teammates help propel you toward the finish line. They understand the struggle. They are ready to celebrate your successes and push you to keep going when you feel like you’re ready to drop out of the race. Teammates can be the difference between success and failure.
You may know people who have already made the changes you are trying to adopt. Those people can coach you toward a win of your own. Don’t be bashful about asking for help. And if you need a little extra guidance, consider hiring a professional. Coaches, like teammates and cheerleaders, will encourage you and spur you on to victory but they also have expertise, training, and techniques to help you do it. Whether it’s a Life Coach, a Wellness Coach, or a Nutrition Coach, an expert can sometimes help you see your strengths and weaknesses in a whole new light. They can help you put together a serious game plan that could be the difference between giving it a shot and killing the game.
I’m here for you. I believe in you. Now let’s go out and get it!