Normally when I first start working with a new weight-loss or coaching client, we’ll get together and talk about what her goals are, where she wants to focus, and what’s been going on in her life that has caused her to gain weight or become unhappy with her life. Every woman that has chatted with me has expressed some variation on this topic: I’m such a great ___________, how come I’m not happy or proud of myself?
It makes me really sad to see how women particularly tend to put every other person in their lives before them. Sarah’s Story I’ve known Sarah (name was changed) for a long time. One week we had a get-real conversation about her weight concerns. She revealed to me that she only eats once a day because she gets so busy with her kids and her career. I looked at her and said, “Sarah, would you ever feed your kids only once a day?” “Hell no!” was her response. “Then why is it okay to do that to yourself?” I asked.
Treat yourself as you would your best friend. For some reason, we women have a tendency to treat others better than we treat ourselves. We talk to others more kindly, we give them more time, and we make sure they have what they need.Why aren’t we doing this for ourselves? When it comes to negative self-talk, I like to remind my clients that if they talked like that to their best friend, they wouldn’t have a best friend for very long!
For 30 Minutes: Say ‘No’ to Others and ‘Yes’ to Yourself. Remember: the most successful people in life say ‘No’ more often than they say ‘Yes.’ Your assignment this week is to set aside about 30 minutes every day to focus entirely on you. I challenge you to really take this on, really try it out fully, and see what happens. Be creative with how you spend those 30 minutes. Will it be filled with exercise, a good book, meditation or another healthy habit? I bet that when you give yourself this time, you’ll feel more fulfilled. The other things in your life that you’re proud of are going to be even better because you’ll feel so great about yourself.Need another reason for self-care? Well, happiness is practically guaranteed when you take care of yourself. Is 30 minutes a day too much of a sacrifice to guarantee happiness? Of course not!
I would love to support you and hear how you did! Shoot me an email and let me know what you will focus on for 30 minutes next week and I’ll check in with you and cheer you on!